Perhaps one thing that has always perplexed me is the idea that talking to another person is ‘difficult’. To tell the truth on things that you feel, or telling someone something that they need to hear. So many people bulk from doing just that, and then they live a life of misery involving other people in certain situations.
It’s not that talking to another person is hard, we do it daily, it’s the act of being honest that is so hard. ‘Rocking the boat’ or ‘upsetting the status quo’ is not something people like to do. We ENJOY being in a state that we understand, even if our bodies and minds detest it. So we don’t flat out tell someone they suck at sex, or that you wish that your mother would respect you, or that you wish your father wouldn’t talk down to you all the time.
That would upset the status quo.
Because after saying something honest, the next step is dealing with the reaction. Hearing your partner tell you that you’re ‘just weird and too picky’ about sex, hearing your mother destroy your self esteem, and hear your father just undermine all the accomplishments you ever made.
It’s exhausting.
So you don’t tell the truth. You make a choice. You stay silent and allow those things to eat at you.
Perhaps it’s not just the reaction we dread, but it’s also the TRUTH about a reaction that we dread even more. The fact that other people that we may claim or are told we have to love…
Just don’t love us.
Which leads us to a crossroads. Whether or not we want to continue pouring in love and effort into relationships that are all one sided…
And that is, perhaps, the scariest choice of them all.
Why Don’t We Just Talk?
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