saying sorry when you have nothing to be sorry for really is disempowering. i learned that reflex as an adult man, because i was intimidating and didn’t want to be. the more i did it, the worse i felt. it didn’t stop me being intimidating, either, it just made me intimidating and sorry. trying to make yourself smaller by apologizing all the time is really hard on you and you gotta unlearn it.
this video’s advice is so good. say thank you instead. turn it outward. instead of effacing yourself, raise up others.
also the animation is really good and natural, and i want to know who did it.
I didn’t realize how much I apologize since seeing this video. People say I have a very ‘melancholy’ face, not that I’m trying to imitate My Immortal despite my wicked goth exterior, so saying sorry was a way to try and make me more cute and polite.
I dunno if people view me as cute and polite, but I feel like shit most of the time.
Reblogging this again because of extra commentary.
Marshmellowmilktea 